I recently took a few online IQ tests just to see where I score since I have never really known what my IQ is. I won't even get started on what led me to do it...It was a long, winding journey in my head about pride. I took 4 tests because I wasn't sure the... Continue Reading →
Hope vs. Expectations vs. Reality
I had to give myself a reality check over the past couple of days and it has taken me some time to process it. It was a wake-up call to "hope vs. expectations" and it was disappointing. Somehow I have managed to bleed expectations into my hope. Years ago, someone called me "pathetically hopeful". I... Continue Reading →
I am at a loss…
Warning...Foul language ahead...read at your own risk. 🙂 Every now and then I just have to sit back and laugh at myself. I mean really laugh. For all the years of recovery I have and all the tools that are in my toolbox, I still mess up. It's just proof that I will always be... Continue Reading →
Another Day of Strait Up Rambling
There is something that is really bothering me lately. Every time I go to read a post in a codependency group of any kind, whether it be Facebook, a forum, another blog, etc., I am overwhelmed by the term "narcissist". Now I am by no means a mental health professional and certainly do not claim... Continue Reading →
Through the Revelation of a Dream
I had another weird dream the other night. It was truly bizarre so when I woke up, I looked up a few of the significant things I remembered on Dream Moods. I enjoy doing this because it really helps to give me some insight as to what is going on in my subconscious mind; apparently,... Continue Reading →
Busy Does Not Equal Healthy
I have joined a few groups for codependents on Facebook within the last week or so and I'm really not liking the vibe in them. LOL... Get a bunch of codependents together and all they want to do is fix everyone else. Truly, I understand the need for these support groups but sometimes the drama... Continue Reading →
Planning For A Stressless Season
Well here we are...fall and I love the fall weather! However, fall also signifies the start of the holiday season; a season that brings about much stress and overwhelm. I use to love the holiday season. I enjoyed buying things for friends and family, getting together for large family dinners, attending parties, etc., but not... Continue Reading →
Enjoying A Relationship With Myself
Just rambling on today... “Codependency underlies all addictions. The core symptom of “dependency” manifests as reliance on a person, substance, or process (i.e., activity, such as gambling or sex addiction). Instead of having a healthy relationship with yourself, you make something or someone else more important. Over time, your thoughts, feelings, and actions revolve around that other person, activity, or substance, and you increasingly abandon your relationship with yourself.” Ah,... Continue Reading →
What Are Your Favorite Recovery Tools?
We use various tools every single day of our lives. We have kitchen tools, grooming tools, gardening tools, construction tools, tools to help us walk, tools to help us reach, tools for this and tools for that...the list goes on and on. All these tools were invented to help make our tasks easier. Take the... Continue Reading →
“Everyone” Wants To Be Heard But “No one” Wants To Listen
It amazes me how fast we can get stuck in an unhealthy cycle of dysfunction. Life's circumstances and daily stresses can become overwhelming and we just want someone to listen as we work through the pain, emotions, challenges, etc, that each day brings. Unfortunately, because we all have these pains, emotions, challenges, etc, we get... Continue Reading →
Quit Dumbing-down the Term “Hero”
I had a bit of a rough time yesterday evening. I had a conversation with a dear friend that left me angry and hurt. Not with my friend but with the gossip and lies that were being told about me and the lack of integrity a past client of has shown. (I will write about... Continue Reading →
I have a fun question for you…
If you describe yourself as any animal, which animal would it be and why? I'll start... I would say the panda. If you didn't know this about me, pandas are my all time favorite animal! Pandas are easy-going, playful, fun, funny and beautiful. However, they can be fierce! Don't mistake their gentleness and peacefulness for weakness!... Continue Reading →