Landing in the Valley of Change

I can’t believe how strong I feel! I can’t believe how good I feel! For the last several days, I have been inundated with opportunities to “dance”; one right after the other. I haven’t felt the need to.  I haven’t allowed them to upset me to the point that I feel the uncontrollable need to lash back. I have remained calm in my dealings and stated very clearly my boundaries or what I had to say and then left it on the floor. 

Oh what an incredible feeling! I can only imagine the shock or surprise on the other end of the email or text. (There were a couple of different people involved.) I left no room for debating or manipulation. Direct and to the point; clear as could be. The response was, “Ok”.

For those that may not struggle with codependency or people-pleasing, this is a HUGE success for me. Oh yes, I have done it in the past and sometimes struggled with a little guilt for standing up for myself or thought maybe I was too harsh or I could have been a little softer in my tone…whatever, but not today!

I am ecstatic at how I feel! Call me “high” right now because that is where I am. It’s a great feeling! I stood up for myself and am not letting anyone push me around or push my buttons. I am not allowing anyone to manipulate me! I am not even questioning whether or not I should have used a different tone, or responded differently; I said what I said and I feel great!

Practice, practice, practice! If you fall off the horse, get right back on! What an incredible ride!

I found this quote this morning and I love it! My flight has landed in the valley of change and I love it here!!!

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.” ~ Shannon L. Alder