Encouragement for the Codependent
Twelve years ago, I wrote a post called Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes. Although I published it in 2014, it was really about a journey that began in 2005. I was in the middle of learning some of the hardest lessons of my life, and writing helped me make sense of them. Looking back now,... Continue Reading →
Peace isn't the only gift healing has given me. Don't get me wrong, I'm incredibly grateful for the peace I've found. There was a time in my life when I wasn't sure I would ever experience it. But when I sat down to write this post, I realized that peace isn't the only gift my... Continue Reading →
For a long time, I was harder on myself than I would ever be on anyone else. I replayed mistakes in my mind.I focused on what I should have done differently.I carried guilt for things I wish I had handled better. Sometimes I held onto those thoughts for far longer than I needed to. Maybe... Continue Reading →
For a long time, I didn’t want to feel everything. There were some days, I didn't want to feel anything! If something hurt, I tried to move past it quickly. If something made me uncomfortable, I pushed it aside. I told myself to stay strong, to keep going, to not let emotions slow me down.... Continue Reading →
Healing doesn’t always look the way we expect it to. It’s not always a breakthrough moment or a big shift that changes everything overnight. More often, it’s quiet. Subtle. A series of small choices that slowly begin to feel different over time. It’s the moments when you pause instead of push. When you listen instead... Continue Reading →
Asking for help didn’t come naturally to me. For a long time, I believed I should be able to handle everything on my own. I told myself I didn’t need help. That I had it under control. That I could figure it out if I just tried hard enough. Looking back, I can see it... Continue Reading →
Saying no didn’t always come easily to me. For a long time, I believed that saying yes meant I was being helpful, supportive, and dependable. It meant I was showing up for others in the way I thought I was supposed to. So I said yes. Even when I was tired.Even when I didn’t have... Continue Reading →
Sometimes the hardest part of healing isn’t knowing what to do next. It’s finding the courage to let go of what we’ve been holding onto. For a long time, I didn’t realize how tightly I was holding on to things that were weighing me down. Old hurts. Expectations. The need to fix everything. The belief... Continue Reading →
I spent a lot of time believing that healing meant fixing everything as quickly as possible. My mind said, “If all is well, then I’m okay.” If someone needed me, I showed up.If something needed to get done, I took it on.If someone was struggling, I tried to fix it. I told myself that this... Continue Reading →
Lately, I’ve been noticing something different in myself…a quiet ability to let life feel good without questioning it. I used to carry so much, old wounds, self-doubt, the need to hold everything together. Even in moments that were meant to be fun, part of me stayed guarded. But healing has changed that. Healing looks like... Continue Reading →
Part of the Healing Looks Like series on Journey On Strong Healing doesn’t always look the way we expect it to. It isn’t always dramatic breakthroughs, big realizations, or perfectly put-together moments of strength. Often, healing shows up quietly in the small choices we make each day. These are the moments when we choose rest,... Continue Reading →
Closing the year grounded and moving forward with intention. This post feels a little different, because it marks the final entry in my 52-week blogger challenge. As the year comes to a close and a new one waits just ahead, I find myself less focused on endings and more focused on continuation. This challenge was... Continue Reading →
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