If you’re anything like me, Christmas time can be so stressful. As a codependent and people-pleaser, I always want to do the best I can for those I love and it truly hurts my heart when I feel I have failed. No matter how much recovery I think I have, I still struggle with this... Continue Reading →
Are You A Safe Person?
I originally wrote this post in 2014 but thought it was a good time to bring it up again. I had an interesting conversation last night with a friend of mine who seems to feel another friend we have in common (though I haven't seen her for a few years) is "stuck" in her marriage.... Continue Reading →
Words Our Inner Child Needs to Hear
My little sister was a nanny for 2 precious little girls who are turning 4 years old. She decided to write them a letter and shared it with me. I am sharing it on my blog (with her permission) because it touched me so deeply. My little sis is wise beyond her years. It is written... Continue Reading →
Where do you get your affirmation? Most of my life I looked for affirmation from others. I needed to hear their words of praise, encouragement, love... I NEEDED it. I would receive compliments or praise and I would feel an ever so brief fluttering of pride. Then I would start feeling they didn't really mean... Continue Reading →
The Insanity of Codependency…There is Hope!
This is a post that I actually wrote as a guest post for another blog in July 2014. The blog has since been taken down so I decided to post on the Diary of a Recovering Codependent. Enjoy! Have you ever felt you were doing everything right but in the process, you were going absolutely and utterly... Continue Reading →
My Castle…My Life
I was doing some reading about boundaries and personal rights and it made me think of a castle. My life is now a castle in all its glory and splendor. You're probably thinking, "how in the heck did you get from boundaries and rights, to your life is a castle?" Let me explain, as I... Continue Reading →
The Recovery Elevator Is Out Of Order
Don't you wish you could just get on the "recovery elevator", push a button and be where you want to be in no time? I'd go straight for the top...healing, wellness, wholeness, happiness… within seconds. But alas, there is no such elevator, no such pill, no such magic. There is just the journey of each... Continue Reading →
An Unexpected Invitation
On Monday I received an instant message on Facebook from my younger half-sister saying she would like to see me and have coffee or lunch the following day. My sister is 31 years younger than me and we have never really had any kind of relationship, so I was absolutely shocked. I responded that of... Continue Reading →
Sharing Some Exciting News!
I am so excited to announce that not only have I finally finished my 1st book, I have also created a journal for codependents and they will be published withing the next couple of weeks! Journey of a Codependent Discovering the Beauty of Who I Am This is the story of my life as a... Continue Reading →
Looking Forward to Vegas, Baby!
I'm leaving this evening to fly to Las Vegas for our family reunion and I am pretty excited about it. I have mentioned in the past that I am not really close to anyone in my very large family. I have never felt like I fit in and have always felt like a failure and... Continue Reading →
A New Journey Ahead
I had an experience this weekend, one that is both comical (to me) and profound. I laugh at my doubt and insecurities but am in awe of God's humor and confirmation. Years ago I told Lucy that I was going to be an inspirational speaker some day, taking my testimony and sharing it with those... Continue Reading →
What inspires you?
I came across a quote this morning and it got me to thinking about inspiration. "Waves inspire me... not because they raise high, but because they leap up again after falling." Author Unknown There are many things that inspire me and many people. I have learned over the years not to be too impressed with those... Continue Reading →