People

People amaze me. Sometimes it's their talent or a special gift they have that just leaves me in awe. Other times it's the kindness and compassion they have for others or their strength and determination to overcome the challenges life throws at them. Every single day people inspire and encourage others and show the world... Continue Reading →

I’m Not Getting Sucked In

I received a text message from my brother the other night. He let me know that he just got off the phone with my ex-boyfriend, M, and that M wanted my brother to give me his phone number. He explained to my brother that he was dying of cancer. I have friends that are still... Continue Reading →

Letter to a Puke

This post expresses extremely foul language but it is the truth of where I am tonight - please do not read if it will offend you... I'm so angry tonight! It started off earlier today as shock and disbelief and as I rolled through the stages, once again, I have ended up here. I am... Continue Reading →

Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes

How many times have you heard the saying, "Nothing changes if nothing changes"? How about the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result? Maybe you're like me, before I entered recovery, and have never heard these sayings before. Well, you have now so what are your thoughts? I... Continue Reading →

Watching the Dance From Afar

One of the most frustrating things for a recovering codependent is to watch someone, who knows nothing of codependency, dance the endless and exhausting dance. It doesn't matter how much you explain what is happening on the dance floor, because you are all too familiar with it, they still dance. Once again reminding me, that... Continue Reading →

Protect me! She’s codependent!

One more step forward today. It's been a little rough trying to keep the guilt at bay, but I have managed. The restraining order has been filed and I will pick up the order tomorrow. It was hard, at first, then someone told me that "he" found out I was filing the restraining order and said... Continue Reading →

Landing in the Valley of Change

I can't believe how strong I feel! I can't believe how good I feel! For the last several days, I have been inundated with opportunities to "dance"; one right after the other. I haven't felt the need to.  I haven't allowed them to upset me to the point that I feel the uncontrollable need to lash back.... Continue Reading →

Enjoy the Crash!

It has taken many years and much practice for me to learn what healthy boundaries are and how to set them. I can say, today I am more comfortable setting them and standing firm without much guilt, especially when I can tell I am being manipulated. Sure, on occasion, I still struggle with them, especially when it... Continue Reading →

Oh this sucks!

I will forever be codependent. There is no cure. It is not something I can take a pill for or watch my diet or exercise. The only way to keep it at bay, is to put into practice what I have learned over the years and know that tomorrow will be a better day. As codependents,... Continue Reading →

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