Past Me & Future Me

Today I have a special guest post... Let me introduce my little sister, Melissa. There is a 31-year age difference between my little sister and I, and up until a year and a half ago, we had no relationship. She grew up without me in her life, except for the every so often visit. Sadly, I... Continue Reading →

Inside Out Challenge – Day 6

The one you kissed on New Year’s Eve. Well, let's be honest...I kissed them all on New Year's Eve. Right? Who hasn't kissed their significant other on this special night? However, I will tell you about the one that relates to my codependency. If I'm not mistaken, it was New Year's Eve 1989 (I could... Continue Reading →

Have you lost your joy?

I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine who, I feel, has lost her joy. I say this because I remember when I lost mine. I remember just how I felt, how I acted and where I ended up. Joy vs. Happiness Joy and happiness are wonderful feelings to experience, but are very... Continue Reading →

My A – Z Codependency Challenge – K

Knack, Kowtowing, Keelhauling, Knowing, Knee-jerk, Know I’m going to make this short and sweet. I had a knack (a tendency to do something) to kowtowing (act in an excessively subservient manner) knowing (done in full awareness or consciousness) that it wasn’t right or healthy for me and a knee jerk (automatic and unthinking) reaction to... Continue Reading →

My A – Z Codependency Challenge – E

Enabler, Excuses, Evasive Let me just start this with the saying, "You don't know what you don't know" and I didn't know. I didn't know what an enabler was. I didn't know that all my "helping" was actually "harming". I didn't know that trying to save someone from their toxic behaviors was feeding their need to... Continue Reading →

My A – Z Codependency Challenge – D

Denial, Delusional, Deceit, Debacle  Oh good grief! When I started this little A-Z challenge I don't think I really thought it through well. I’m laughing at myself now because it’s only day 4 and who wants to admit these damn words? Delusional: having false or unrealistic beliefs or opinions - Yep, I had false and unrealistic beliefs of... Continue Reading →

My A – Z Codependency Challenge – B

Boundaries, Blame, Busy The first time I read the word "boundaries" in Melody Beattie's book, Codependent No More, I thought, "What the hell are boundaries?" The counselor I was seeing at that time recommended I read it so I did. Now, it's pretty sad that I had no clue what "setting boundaries" meant but what's even... Continue Reading →

Being One Call Away

I heard this song a few weeks ago while driving in the car with Lucy. I started laughing and told her that this song was about her! I know, I know...it's about me but deflecting was entertaining for a minute. I use to think I was Superwoman. Well, that's not quite the truth. I didn't... Continue Reading →

Someday I’ll Get It Right

Well, I failed myself this weekend. Just when I think I've got it, I do something so stupid to prove to myself that I don't. Thank God I'm striving for progress and not perfection but I'm doing a pretty good job of beating myself up for it. This past Sunday I was able to visit... Continue Reading →

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