I received a text message from my brother the other night. He let me know that he just got off the phone with my ex-boyfriend, M, and that M wanted my brother to give me his phone number. He explained to my brother that he was dying of cancer. I have friends that are still... Continue Reading →
I can't really say that life has been hectic lately because, well, it hasn't. There has been some stress, but as usual, it all dances around finances, nothing new. I did catch the flu that left me down and out for about two weeks, but I have since made a full recovery. So why haven't... Continue Reading →
If you’re anything like me, Christmas time can be so stressful. As a codependent and people-pleaser, I always want to do the best I can for those I love and it truly hurts my heart when I feel I have failed. No matter how much recovery I think I have, I still struggle with this... Continue Reading →
I recently took a few online IQ tests just to see where I score since I have never really known what my IQ is. I won't even get started on what led me to do it...It was a long, winding journey in my head about pride. I took 4 tests because I wasn't sure the... Continue Reading →
I had to give myself a reality check over the past couple of days and it has taken me some time to process it. It was a wake-up call to "hope vs. expectations" and it was disappointing. Somehow I have managed to bleed expectations into my hope. Years ago, someone called me "pathetically hopeful". I... Continue Reading →
Warning...Foul language ahead...read at your own risk. 🙂 Every now and then I just have to sit back and laugh at myself. I mean really laugh. For all the years of recovery I have and all the tools that are in my toolbox, I still mess up. It's just proof that I will always be... Continue Reading →
There is something that is really bothering me lately. Every time I go to read a post in a codependency group of any kind, whether it be Facebook, a forum, another blog, etc., I am overwhelmed by the term "narcissist". Now I am by no means a mental health professional and certainly do not claim... Continue Reading →
Thank you Mike for completing our "Black Belt Codependent Interview Series"! Mike mentions in his interview, "My friends, son and ex-wife will call me on my bull when it happens. I am recovered enough that I want to be called out when I behave poorly." This is so extremely important to do for those of... Continue Reading →
I had another weird dream the other night. It was truly bizarre so when I woke up, I looked up a few of the significant things I remembered on Dream Moods. I enjoy doing this because it really helps to give me some insight as to what is going on in my subconscious mind; apparently,... Continue Reading →
I have joined a few groups for codependents on Facebook within the last week or so and I'm really not liking the vibe in them. LOL... Get a bunch of codependents together and all they want to do is fix everyone else. Truly, I understand the need for these support groups but sometimes the drama... Continue Reading →
I read the comment below today and thought, "Wow! Isn't that the truth?" Sometimes I feel like calling myself codependent means I am broken. I am not. As codependents we care very deeply for others. That is an EXCELLENT quality. We think of others first. That is a spiritual quality. In fact the world would... Continue Reading →
Please listen to the amazing song below. There was a period in my life when I had lost all hope. I could not see past the pain and disillusionment of the life I was responsible for creating. I was drowning in fear and choking on the waves of one bad choice after another. I met with... Continue Reading →
Journey On Strong 