Tornado in the Valley of Change

Remember my last post, where I bragged about landing in the "Valley of Change"? Well, a tornado stuck the valley, full force, that very night. There was no warning; I never saw it coming. It hit so hard, I almost lost my sanity and peace of mind. Sleep did not come to me that night... Continue Reading →

Landing in the Valley of Change

I can't believe how strong I feel! I can't believe how good I feel! For the last several days, I have been inundated with opportunities to "dance"; one right after the other. I haven't felt the need to.  I haven't allowed them to upset me to the point that I feel the uncontrollable need to lash back.... Continue Reading →

I went from zero…to my own hero!

I was running some errands yesterday and listening to the radio, having my own little karaoke fest in my car, when Katy Perry's song, "Roar" came on. I've heard this song just a few times before but never really paid attention to the lyrics. Well, they caught my attention yesterday. For some reason, it hit... Continue Reading →

The Guilt of Saying “No”

It seems to have been a whirlwind of month so far with all the drama surrounding me. It's not my drama but so much is happening in the lives of those around me and I feel I have done very well in not getting sucked up into the whirlwind although a tinge of guilt surrounds... Continue Reading →

It’s not about your location!

I was reading through some post on other blogs and came across this one, Geographic Relocation and Codependency, which made me start thinking. I have heard many people say how much they hate this place (whatever place they live) and want to move and start over. It amazes me when someone says, "The people here suck!"... Continue Reading →

Today, I Am Moving My Feet!

I am so blessed today! I received a phone call from my daughter telling me I needed to hurry up and post something new. I love that she has been following my blog and encourages me to continue! I use to struggle with so much guilt about the way my children were influenced by my... Continue Reading →

Enjoy the Crash!

It has taken many years and much practice for me to learn what healthy boundaries are and how to set them. I can say, today I am more comfortable setting them and standing firm without much guilt, especially when I can tell I am being manipulated. Sure, on occasion, I still struggle with them, especially when it... Continue Reading →

You cannot take away my truth.

Years ago, in the pit of my codependency, before learning that the pain I was in was caused by me and my actions or reactions, I needed you to understand. I needed you to know of my pain and how you hurt me. I needed you to acknowledge what you did. I needed your apology. I... Continue Reading →

Letting Go of the Lies

I find it truly mind-boggling how we hold onto the lies from our past. Somehow those lies get deeply embedded in our hearts and we would rather hold on to those than accept the truth about ourselves. It's more comfortable that way because it's what we know, I guess. Here are some of the lies I seem... Continue Reading →

Oh this sucks!

I will forever be codependent. There is no cure. It is not something I can take a pill for or watch my diet or exercise. The only way to keep it at bay, is to put into practice what I have learned over the years and know that tomorrow will be a better day. As codependents,... Continue Reading →

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