There are times when I just have to stop and remember how badly I screwed my kids up with my codependent behaviors. You know the old saying, "Monkey see, monkey do". And then I realize that today I am in a place that I can model a healthier and more fulfilling lifestyle. I am blessed... Continue Reading →
The Recovery Elevator Is Out Of Order
Reflecting today...I am so grateful for the journey!
Finding, Loving, Trusting Me First by JoAnne Macco
This is an absolutely beautiful poem written by my blogging friend JoAnne Macco. Her blog, "Anything Is Possible!" is full of inspiration and encouragement! She is a constant encouragement to me and I know she will be to you, too! Before you found me I had to find me Deep in the forest, Singing to... Continue Reading →
For everything there is a season…
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, (I am here but I will not be forever.) a time to plant and a time to uproot, (Sow within myself words of affirmation and dig out those negative tapes... Continue Reading →
I’m Not Getting Sucked In
I received a text message from my brother the other night. He let me know that he just got off the phone with my ex-boyfriend, M, and that M wanted my brother to give me his phone number. He explained to my brother that he was dying of cancer. I have friends that are still... Continue Reading →
The Struggle Was Real
I can't really say that life has been hectic lately because, well, it hasn't. There has been some stress, but as usual, it all dances around finances, nothing new. I did catch the flu that left me down and out for about two weeks, but I have since made a full recovery. So why haven't... Continue Reading →
It’s Not Better, It’s Different
If you’re anything like me, Christmas time can be so stressful. As a codependent and people-pleaser, I always want to do the best I can for those I love and it truly hurts my heart when I feel I have failed. No matter how much recovery I think I have, I still struggle with this... Continue Reading →
It’s Not Pride
I recently took a few online IQ tests just to see where I score since I have never really known what my IQ is. I won't even get started on what led me to do it...It was a long, winding journey in my head about pride. I took 4 tests because I wasn't sure the... Continue Reading →
Hope vs. Expectations vs. Reality
I had to give myself a reality check over the past couple of days and it has taken me some time to process it. It was a wake-up call to "hope vs. expectations" and it was disappointing. Somehow I have managed to bleed expectations into my hope. Years ago, someone called me "pathetically hopeful". I... Continue Reading →
I am at a loss…
Warning...Foul language ahead...read at your own risk. 🙂 Every now and then I just have to sit back and laugh at myself. I mean really laugh. For all the years of recovery I have and all the tools that are in my toolbox, I still mess up. It's just proof that I will always be... Continue Reading →
Another Day of Strait Up Rambling
There is something that is really bothering me lately. Every time I go to read a post in a codependency group of any kind, whether it be Facebook, a forum, another blog, etc., I am overwhelmed by the term "narcissist". Now I am by no means a mental health professional and certainly do not claim... Continue Reading →
Black Belt Codependent Interview Series – Mike
Thank you Mike for completing our "Black Belt Codependent Interview Series"! Mike mentions in his interview, "My friends, son and ex-wife will call me on my bull when it happens. I am recovered enough that I want to be called out when I behave poorly." This is so extremely important to do for those of... Continue Reading →
