I can't really say that life has been hectic lately because, well, it hasn't. There has been some stress, but as usual, it all dances around finances, nothing new. I did catch the flu that left me down and out for about two weeks, but I have since made a full recovery. So why haven't... Continue Reading →
I am at a loss…
Warning...Foul language ahead...read at your own risk. 🙂 Every now and then I just have to sit back and laugh at myself. I mean really laugh. For all the years of recovery I have and all the tools that are in my toolbox, I still mess up. It's just proof that I will always be... Continue Reading →
“Everyone” Wants To Be Heard But “No one” Wants To Listen
It amazes me how fast we can get stuck in an unhealthy cycle of dysfunction. Life's circumstances and daily stresses can become overwhelming and we just want someone to listen as we work through the pain, emotions, challenges, etc, that each day brings. Unfortunately, because we all have these pains, emotions, challenges, etc, we get... Continue Reading →
Conflict and Confrontation
Today I find myself avoiding it. I know I've written about this before and just like before, I will face it, eventually. This is my struggle: when there is conflict that means people are unhappy. When people are unhappy, well, it just stresses me out. Yeah I know, life is not always rainbows and butterflies.... Continue Reading →
My A – Z Codependency Challenge – P
Pusillanimous, Passive Aggressive I had an album when I was a teenager by the Rutles. I don’t remember where it came from but there was one song that always stuck with me, or should I say, one line from one song that always stuck with me; “You're so pusillanimous, oh yeah." I remember looking up... Continue Reading →
I am at peace with my decision.
Yesterday I posted about terminating a client of mine and her email 28 days later asking me to reconsider. As soon as I read her email, I knew what my answer would be but I wanted to take some time to really think and pray if it was the right one. Here was my response and... Continue Reading →
I have a decision to make…
A funny thing happened on the way to the office today...Nah, I just really wanted to say that, but something interesting did happen and it is giving me the opportunity to stretch myself and test myself in several areas. As always, a little history is needed to give you the full picture so please bear with me.... Continue Reading →
Confrontation & Consequences
Have I told you before how much I HATE confrontation? Some people don't care one way or the other and have no problem confronting someone or being confronted. Some people actually enjoy it and go out of their way to cause it. Me, I hate it! The old me would avoid it at ALL costs; my... Continue Reading →
The Ugliness of Who I Was…(Part 4)
This will be the last segment of The Ugliness of Who I Was... but the story is not over. There is a better story coming...I promise. The Ugliness of Who I Was…(Part 4) In late 1998, through a series of events, I began corresponding with a man in prison, Ricky. I had no intention of a... Continue Reading →
Knowing My “Place”
Whoooo wheeeee...am I on a roll about this one! Let's see, how do I put it all into words. Oh I have plenty of words coming out of my mouth but writing about it is going to be a bit challenging...I think. We'll see. So in the course of dealing with my clients, there are... Continue Reading →
Letting Go of Our Adult Children
I was recently asked by a very dear friend of mine to write something to the women who are struggling with letting go of their adult children. As a mother myself and a codependent by nature, I could completely relate to this topic. I by no means get it right in this area all the... Continue Reading →
Speaking Your Truth
I did something this morning. Something that made me uncomfortable and just a bit nervous. It wasn't easy but it needed to be done, for me, so I did it. I spoke my truth. Why is it so difficult for me to speak my truth? Melody Beattie's book, "Codependent No More", has 9 pages of... Continue Reading →