How I Respond to Guilt Trips (Without Losing Myself) There was a time when a sigh, a disappointed glance, or a few carefully chosen words could send me into a spiral of guilt. I’d drop everything to smooth things over, even if I wasn’t the one who caused the problem. That’s the grip guilt had... Continue Reading →
Reflecting on the person I once was compared to who I am today fills me with immense pride. I look back and see someone who did the work, faced the challenges head-on, and persevered through moments of doubt. She learned from every experience, embraced growth, and embraced change. Now, she exudes confidence, takes pride in... Continue Reading →
Embracing Complex Emotions: My Not-So-Graceful Journey Through Anger, Fear, and Sadness Emotions are wild. One minute, you’re fine, sipping your morning coffee, and the next, you’re spiraling because someone took the last parking spot at the grocery store. (Yes, I saw you, Karen.) But instead of stuffing these emotions down like an overstuffed suitcase, I’ve... Continue Reading →
February 2025: Deepening Self-Awareness: Recognizing Subtle Triggers and Handling Them Life has its ups and downs, and not all surprises are good ones. Sometimes, everything feels fine, and then out of nowhere, something small—like a song, a smell, or a random comment—brings up tough feelings. These moments are called triggers. They remind us of past... Continue Reading →
Your hardest fight I'm going to start off with an apology to you all... I am so sorry I haven't been faithful to this challenge or this blog lately. I will try to do better but I make no promises because it is so hard for me to write when I'm just not feeling it.... Continue Reading →
The sweetest dream you had last night As you can tell, I haven't quite kept up with this challenge the way I had hoped to, although I will finish. I had surgery on my foot last week and well, living with a cast is a nightmare in itself. Because of the painkillers, I haven't had... Continue Reading →
The longest night you ever spent Being the people-pleasing, under achieving, no self-esteeming, flaming codependent that I was, I have countless long nights in my history. Each one of them brought on by my own poor choices and devastating consequences. However, since I am to write about the "longest night", I will write about the... Continue Reading →
The biggest lie you ever told Well it just sucks that this is the topic for the very first day. No warming up, no easing into it, just straight to the point from the get go. So I had to ponder about this one... a lot. I could tell you about the time I lied... Continue Reading →
It has been almost four years since I wrote this post and it just amazes me how different my life is these days. Change can be hard and certainly scary but change is hope. Don't give up! How many times have you heard the saying, “Nothing changes if nothing changes”? How about the definition of... Continue Reading →
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, (I am here but I will not be forever.) a time to plant and a time to uproot, (Sow within myself words of affirmation and dig out those negative tapes... Continue Reading →
Thank you Mike for completing our "Black Belt Codependent Interview Series"! Mike mentions in his interview, "My friends, son and ex-wife will call me on my bull when it happens. I am recovered enough that I want to be called out when I behave poorly." This is so extremely important to do for those of... Continue Reading →
I have joined a few groups for codependents on Facebook within the last week or so and I'm really not liking the vibe in them. LOL... Get a bunch of codependents together and all they want to do is fix everyone else. Truly, I understand the need for these support groups but sometimes the drama... Continue Reading →
Journey On Strong 