Encouragement for the Codependent
I want to thank Tessa of Advocate for Invisible Illness! for nominating me for the Love/Hate Blogger Challenge. I am so blessed to get to know my fellow bloggers more in such a fun way. Here are the rules: List 10 things you love: My Lord and Savior My children and my grandchild! They... Continue Reading →
The “bubble of denial” we live in is inflated with lies and deception…the ones we tell ourselves. Thank you Freedom for this amazing post!
Denial. I used to live wrapped up in its hypnotically charged blanket, succumbed into thinking I was safe in my little bubble of “happiness”. But recovery requires facing things the acknowledgment and embracing of truths that can be hurtful, painful to recall, enraging, etc. The second half of Chapter 3 from Love is a Choice discusses this exact point.
“If the effects of codependency are so glaringly obvious, why bother with counseling? After all, surely the sufferer need simply identify with the problem and take steps to resolve it…
Codepdendents with significant unmet emotional needs are masters of denial. It comes built in. For their whole lives, these people have been living a lie – pretending, wishing, yearning that their lives were lovely when in reality they were unbearably painful emotionally and perhaps physically. They can’t stop lying now. If reality sinks in, the wracking past will surface with all its…
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I just realize this morning that I have been on my journey of codependent recovery for 10 years as of June! Oh my goodness, it doesn't feel like that long. Looking back, I see how far I've come and I am just overfilled with joy! I've learned so much in the past 10 years and... Continue Reading →
Insignificant. Alone. Broken. Abandoned. Insecure. Afraid. Worthless. Crazy. Pathetic. Ugly. Unlovable. Stupid... These words, along with countless others, are how I use to feel about myself. They screamed in my head and lived in my heart. I believed them with every ounce of my being. It seemed that if I already believed these things then... Continue Reading →
I have a little story to tell you about my total relapse into codependency last night. This blog is about the good, the bad and the ugly so I guess I better come clean. I wouldn't consider it quite "ugly" but it probably falls in the higher end of bad...but funny. Let me give you... Continue Reading →
Have I told you before how much I HATE confrontation? Some people don't care one way or the other and have no problem confronting someone or being confronted. Some people actually enjoy it and go out of their way to cause it. Me, I hate it! The old me would avoid it at ALL costs; my... Continue Reading →
Years ago I was asking the very same question. Today I know and understand the answer.
Often I hear from loved ones who have someone in their life suffering from past abuses, depression, or addiction, who is, in their opinion, reacting and responding to life in such a way that it is harmful to themselves or those around them. What can I do? is the plea.
I’m asked this often enough that I chose to highlight my response in the Hopeful Hearts Newsletter last week. I know not all of you receive it (though you can sign up to! 
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When you have a loved one hurting it can often feel like you are BOTH in chains to the issue. Whether they are dealing with effects from abuse, addiction, low self-esteem, depression, or relationship dilemmas when…
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This is an award for the loyal fan/commenter, whether the recipient is a fellow blogger or just someone who follows and comments regularly. I am truly honored and humbled to receive 2 nominations from Freedom at Falling in LOVE with Freedom and Chelise at Caterpillar to Butterfly, and for their continuous contributions to my site via reading and commenting. Their encouragement and... Continue Reading →
I really don't think I need to say anything about this one...it speaks for itself! Today is the last day of my 3 Day Quote Challenge. Thank you again Freedom! I Nominate: 1. GEORGEYWRITES 2. Birdie R. 3. tellingheavysecrets Here are the rules: Post a quote a day that is meaningful to you for 3 days. At... Continue Reading →
This is a great quote from the movie, Bridemaids! Too many times I was stuck in looking at the problems and everything that was going wrong in my life. Other people were not doing what I needed them to do to feel safe, secure and whole. Other people hurt me and used me. Even things... Continue Reading →
I am so blessed and honored by those that read and follow my blog and the encouraging comments they have sent me! Today I was nominated to participate in the "3 Day Quote Challenge" by Freedom and look forward to the opportunity to share a few of my favorites with all of you. Please be sure... Continue Reading →
The process of learning about myself, dealing with past hurts, forgiving others and accepting forgiveness, has been a long and sometimes hard road. There were many tears upon this journey and much stumbling. However, I had a choice: stay in the sickness, pain, chaos and ugliness or learn, grow and change. I obviously chose the... Continue Reading →
Journey On Strong 