Encouragement for the Codependent
I had to give myself a reality check over the past couple of days and it has taken me some time to process it. It was a wake-up call to "hope vs. expectations" and it was disappointing. Somehow I have managed to bleed expectations into my hope. Years ago, someone called me "pathetically hopeful". I... Continue Reading →
Warning...Foul language ahead...read at your own risk. 🙂 Every now and then I just have to sit back and laugh at myself. I mean really laugh. For all the years of recovery I have and all the tools that are in my toolbox, I still mess up. It's just proof that I will always be... Continue Reading →
There is something that is really bothering me lately. Every time I go to read a post in a codependency group of any kind, whether it be Facebook, a forum, another blog, etc., I am overwhelmed by the term "narcissist". Now I am by no means a mental health professional and certainly do not claim... Continue Reading →
Thank you Mike for completing our "Black Belt Codependent Interview Series"! Mike mentions in his interview, "My friends, son and ex-wife will call me on my bull when it happens. I am recovered enough that I want to be called out when I behave poorly." This is so extremely important to do for those of... Continue Reading →
I had another weird dream the other night. It was truly bizarre so when I woke up, I looked up a few of the significant things I remembered on Dream Moods. I enjoy doing this because it really helps to give me some insight as to what is going on in my subconscious mind; apparently,... Continue Reading →
I have joined a few groups for codependents on Facebook within the last week or so and I'm really not liking the vibe in them. LOL... Get a bunch of codependents together and all they want to do is fix everyone else. Truly, I understand the need for these support groups but sometimes the drama... Continue Reading →
I read the comment below today and thought, "Wow! Isn't that the truth?" Sometimes I feel like calling myself codependent means I am broken. I am not. As codependents we care very deeply for others. That is an EXCELLENT quality. We think of others first. That is a spiritual quality. In fact the world would... Continue Reading →
Please listen to the amazing song below. There was a period in my life when I had lost all hope. I could not see past the pain and disillusionment of the life I was responsible for creating. I was drowning in fear and choking on the waves of one bad choice after another. I met with... Continue Reading →
A Big Shout Out to Deirdre for completing our "Black Belt Codependent Interview Series"! In her interview, Deirde mentions laughing and I would like to say how much I appreciate that. Recovery is sometimes a hard and painful journey but there are also times of joy and laughter. Don't miss out on them because you... Continue Reading →
It's actually empowering when I use the tools of my recovery and watch how things unfold. Last night I practiced "staying on my side of the street" and it was so easy and refreshing. I was expecting my boyfriend to come over but when we were texting, his texts were very terse and he said... Continue Reading →
Today I want to share with you a song by Alex Boye' titled, "Lemonade". Please read what he writes about this song on his YouTube page. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do! This song is inspired by one of my favorite quotes: "Cease your complaining and fretting. The cause is in... Continue Reading →
As some of you may have seen in my recent newsletter, I ran across this free, online codependency support group and thought I would share with you. I have joined the group and have found some really encouraging and supportive people there. If you are struggling with something, it's a great place to get feedback, insight,... Continue Reading →
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