The one you kissed on New Year’s Eve. Well, let's be honest...I kissed them all on New Year's Eve. Right? Who hasn't kissed their significant other on this special night? However, I will tell you about the one that relates to my codependency. If I'm not mistaken, it was New Year's Eve 1989 (I could... Continue Reading →
Hope vs. Expectations vs. Reality
I had to give myself a reality check over the past couple of days and it has taken me some time to process it. It was a wake-up call to "hope vs. expectations" and it was disappointing. Somehow I have managed to bleed expectations into my hope. Years ago, someone called me "pathetically hopeful". I... Continue Reading →
I am at a loss…
Warning...Foul language ahead...read at your own risk. 🙂 Every now and then I just have to sit back and laugh at myself. I mean really laugh. For all the years of recovery I have and all the tools that are in my toolbox, I still mess up. It's just proof that I will always be... Continue Reading →
“Everyone” Wants To Be Heard But “No one” Wants To Listen
It amazes me how fast we can get stuck in an unhealthy cycle of dysfunction. Life's circumstances and daily stresses can become overwhelming and we just want someone to listen as we work through the pain, emotions, challenges, etc, that each day brings. Unfortunately, because we all have these pains, emotions, challenges, etc, we get... Continue Reading →
Are You A Safe Person?
I originally wrote this post in 2014 but thought it was a good time to bring it up again. I had an interesting conversation last night with a friend of mine who seems to feel another friend we have in common (though I haven't seen her for a few years) is "stuck" in her marriage.... Continue Reading →
Begin Your Own Ripple Effect
We’ve all heard of the “ripple effect”, haven’t we? Dictionary.com defines the ripple effect as “a spreading effect or series of consequences caused by a single action or event”. When I look back at my life, I can see so many instances where the ripple effect was in play. What I can also see now... Continue Reading →
Forks, Locks & A Whole Bunch of Irritation
I have been feeling a little under the weather lately. Tired, sore, irritable...so today, I need to take the opportunity to just rant and get it out of my system. As I have mentioned before, I rent my two extra bedrooms out to 3 people. For the most part, they have been pretty good roommates.... Continue Reading →
I am at peace with my decision.
Yesterday I posted about terminating a client of mine and her email 28 days later asking me to reconsider. As soon as I read her email, I knew what my answer would be but I wanted to take some time to really think and pray if it was the right one. Here was my response and... Continue Reading →
Confrontation & Consequences
Have I told you before how much I HATE confrontation? Some people don't care one way or the other and have no problem confronting someone or being confronted. Some people actually enjoy it and go out of their way to cause it. Me, I hate it! The old me would avoid it at ALL costs; my... Continue Reading →