Something popped into my mind a little while ago and for some reason I can't get it out. So, I figured it was the perfect topic for a blog post. I think it's because I have so many friends struggling with issues, healing and recovery that I wish I could just make it all go... Continue Reading →
I have a decision to make…
A funny thing happened on the way to the office today...Nah, I just really wanted to say that, but something interesting did happen and it is giving me the opportunity to stretch myself and test myself in several areas. As always, a little history is needed to give you the full picture so please bear with me.... Continue Reading →
A Thought Provoking Question From Lucy
Yesterday, my best friend Lucy and I took a trip to San Francisco's Golden Gate Park to visit the Japanese Tea Gardens. I can't even begin to tell you about the wonderful adventures we had. We laughed so much and so hard, others probably thought we were drunk or on drugs...especially on the paddle boat!... Continue Reading →
The Beauty of Who I Am…(Part 1)
When I first attended Celebrate Recovery, I was there to check out the program for Ricky. I didn't think I was the problem; he was the problem! A lady introduced herself to me (she is still a very dear friend) and I explained why I was there. She gave me some handouts and suggested I read them. That first night... Continue Reading →
Someday I’ll Get It Right
Well, I failed myself this weekend. Just when I think I've got it, I do something so stupid to prove to myself that I don't. Thank God I'm striving for progress and not perfection but I'm doing a pretty good job of beating myself up for it. This past Sunday I was able to visit... Continue Reading →
Don’t let disappointment keep you from living!
Disappointment is such a huge part of life. It sucks. But it won't stop me from living any longer. All my life I have been in and out of relationships that have truly sucked the life out of me and disappointed me at every turn. I stayed, for really no other reason than I was afraid.... Continue Reading →
Letting Go of Our Adult Children
I was recently asked by a very dear friend of mine to write something to the women who are struggling with letting go of their adult children. As a mother myself and a codependent by nature, I could completely relate to this topic. I by no means get it right in this area all the... Continue Reading →
Speaking Your Truth
I did something this morning. Something that made me uncomfortable and just a bit nervous. It wasn't easy but it needed to be done, for me, so I did it. I spoke my truth. Why is it so difficult for me to speak my truth? Melody Beattie's book, "Codependent No More", has 9 pages of... Continue Reading →
Letter to a Puke
This post expresses extremely foul language but it is the truth of where I am tonight - please do not read if it will offend you... I'm so angry tonight! It started off earlier today as shock and disbelief and as I rolled through the stages, once again, I have ended up here. I am... Continue Reading →
Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes
How many times have you heard the saying, "Nothing changes if nothing changes"? How about the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result? Maybe you're like me, before I entered recovery, and have never heard these sayings before. Well, you have now so what are your thoughts? I... Continue Reading →
Having my day in court…VICTORY!
I woke up Wednesday feeling pretty at peace with myself and what was about to happen. It was finally the day to appear before the judge regarding the restraining order I had filed against my ex. I thought I had it all under control and this was going to be a breeze. It wasn't until... Continue Reading →
Watching the Dance From Afar
One of the most frustrating things for a recovering codependent is to watch someone, who knows nothing of codependency, dance the endless and exhausting dance. It doesn't matter how much you explain what is happening on the dance floor, because you are all too familiar with it, they still dance. Once again reminding me, that... Continue Reading →