Encouragement for the Codependent
Updated... I wrestled with myself a little last week... I received an email from Kindle Direct Publishing for my ex's father's account. At one point, a few years ago, I was helping him edit and self-publish his books. I kept telling him I was not a literary agent nor an editor but he wanted my... Continue Reading →
I had to give myself a reality check over the past couple of days and it has taken me some time to process it. It was a wake-up call to "hope vs. expectations" and it was disappointing. Somehow I have managed to bleed expectations into my hope. Years ago, someone called me "pathetically hopeful". I... Continue Reading →
Warning...Foul language ahead...read at your own risk. 🙂 Every now and then I just have to sit back and laugh at myself. I mean really laugh. For all the years of recovery I have and all the tools that are in my toolbox, I still mess up. It's just proof that I will always be... Continue Reading →
Well here we are...fall and I love the fall weather! However, fall also signifies the start of the holiday season; a season that brings about much stress and overwhelm. I use to love the holiday season. I enjoyed buying things for friends and family, getting together for large family dinners, attending parties, etc., but not... Continue Reading →
My best friend Lucy has a son who is an addict. He is 36 (I think) and has been in and out of jail for drugs and drug related crimes since he was a young teen. He even lived with me for about a year when he was getting his life together and attending school... Continue Reading →
It amazes me how fast we can get stuck in an unhealthy cycle of dysfunction. Life's circumstances and daily stresses can become overwhelming and we just want someone to listen as we work through the pain, emotions, challenges, etc, that each day brings. Unfortunately, because we all have these pains, emotions, challenges, etc, we get... Continue Reading →
I originally wrote this post in 2014 but thought it was a good time to bring it up again. I had an interesting conversation last night with a friend of mine who seems to feel another friend we have in common (though I haven't seen her for a few years) is "stuck" in her marriage.... Continue Reading →
I felt this song went along perfectly with the post I wrote this morning about my boundaries. Sometimes a little song in my head helps to remind me of where I am or where I need to be in my recovery and this one was spot on! So if you are having troubles with holding... Continue Reading →
Boundaries, Blame, Busy The first time I read the word "boundaries" in Melody Beattie's book, Codependent No More, I thought, "What the hell are boundaries?" The counselor I was seeing at that time recommended I read it so I did. Now, it's pretty sad that I had no clue what "setting boundaries" meant but what's even... Continue Reading →
Do you let your codependency and people-pleasing issues get in the way of taking care of yourself and doing what it right for you or just right in general? Yeah, that would be me. I still catch myself getting stuck in these ruts. However, today, I know how to get out of them. Sometimes I... Continue Reading →
I was doing some reading about boundaries and personal rights and it made me think of a castle. My life is now a castle in all its glory and splendor. You're probably thinking, "how in the heck did you get from boundaries and rights, to your life is a castle?" Let me explain, as I... Continue Reading →
I heard this song a few weeks ago while driving in the car with Lucy. I started laughing and told her that this song was about her! I know, I know...it's about me but deflecting was entertaining for a minute. I use to think I was Superwoman. Well, that's not quite the truth. I didn't... Continue Reading →
Journey On Strong 