Encouragement for the Codependent
The friends who stay become part of how we survive and grow. Some friendships begin quietly. No big moment. No dramatic story. Just two kids who happen to find each other and somehow keep choosing each other year after year. My best friend and I have been walking through life together since we were 12... Continue Reading →
Continuing the growth I’ve already begun When I think about my future self, I don’t imagine a completely different life. I imagine a deeper version of the one I’m already living. One shaped by continued awareness, intentional choices, and the steady growth that comes from staying aligned with who I am becoming. This reflection is... Continue Reading →
Not Perfect, Just More Peaceful I used to think freedom would feel like a dramatic movie moment. Cue the music. Big realization. Instant confidence. No more overthinking, people-pleasing, or emotional gymnastics. Turns out, freedom from codependency feels a lot more… human. It Feels Like Not Being on Call 24/7 Freedom feels like realizing I am... Continue Reading →
Something sparked a thought in my mind today while I was driving, though I couldn’t tell you exactly what it was. I just found myself thinking about people not liking me. In the past, that used to really bother me. I couldn’t understand why—especially if they didn’t even know me. It felt like a little... Continue Reading →
The saddest song you ever heard Yep, "The Christmas Shoes" is hands-down one of the saddest songs I've ever heard. I cry every time I hear it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNX7d1ETWd8
Today I have a special guest post... Let me introduce my little sister, Melissa. There is a 31-year age difference between my little sister and I, and up until a year and a half ago, we had no relationship. She grew up without me in her life, except for the every so often visit. Sadly, I... Continue Reading →
The boy you swore you’d never leave Ah yes, the boy I swore I'd never leave...that was 43 years ago! I met D when I was 9 years old. He was my first "love". What an innocent time! I lived in Texas and he lived down the road from my best friend. I was always... Continue Reading →
The longest night you ever spent Being the people-pleasing, under achieving, no self-esteeming, flaming codependent that I was, I have countless long nights in my history. Each one of them brought on by my own poor choices and devastating consequences. However, since I am to write about the "longest night", I will write about the... Continue Reading →
I am...
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, (I am here but I will not be forever.) a time to plant and a time to uproot, (Sow within myself words of affirmation and dig out those negative tapes... Continue Reading →
If you’re anything like me, Christmas time can be so stressful. As a codependent and people-pleaser, I always want to do the best I can for those I love and it truly hurts my heart when I feel I have failed. No matter how much recovery I think I have, I still struggle with this... Continue Reading →
I recently took a few online IQ tests just to see where I score since I have never really known what my IQ is. I won't even get started on what led me to do it...It was a long, winding journey in my head about pride. I took 4 tests because I wasn't sure the... Continue Reading →
Journey On Strong 