A Letter to Someone Starting Recovery From someone who has walked the shaky first steps, sat in the messy middle, and learned to trust the journey. If you are reading this, it means something inside you whispered it is time. Maybe it was a quiet knowing. Maybe it was a breakdown that jolted you awake.... Continue Reading →
The Habits That Keep Me Focused (Most Days!) Staying aligned with recovery goals can feel a bit like trying to walk in a straight line while carrying a wobbly stack of grocery bags. It is possible, but not always graceful. Over the years, I have learned that the secret is not perfection, it is having... Continue Reading →
Finding Laughter in the Mess of Growth When I started my healing journey, I took everything very seriously. I thought healing meant sitting in deep reflection, analyzing every emotion, and taking life lessons like a full-time job. It is important work, but somewhere along the way, I forgot how to laugh. I was too distracted... Continue Reading →
Holding on to gratitude when the world feels unbearably heavy I have always tried to hold on to gratitude, even in the hardest of times. It does not erase the pain, but it helps me carry it differently. Just the other night, my daughter and I were talking about the weight of the week. The... Continue Reading →
Finding Strength in Sharing the Journey When I first stepped into my own recovery journey, I never imagined that one day I would be able to walk alongside others as they navigated theirs. At the beginning, I was just trying to survive my own patterns of codependency, people-pleasing, and the weight of old wounds. Over... Continue Reading →
Today I’m Celebrating 20 Years of Recovery from Codependency and People-Pleasing!And yes—I’m throwing confetti (and maybe even dancing a little). Two decades. That’s 240 months, 1,040 weeks, and a whole lot of no’s I had to learn how to say. Today, I’m not just celebrating a milestone—I’m honoring every small, quiet, courageous step it took... Continue Reading →
The Role of Trust in My Healing: Or How I Learned to Stop Side-Eyeing Myself There was a moment (okay, many moments) when I realized I didn’t really trust myself. Not with decisions, not with people, and definitely not with online shopping past 9 p.m. Healing was happening, slowly, but trust? That felt like assembling... Continue Reading →
To, hopefully, get back in the swing of things, I'm kicking off 2025 with a blogging challenge. I'd love you to join me! January 2025: Reflecting on the Journey - My Codependency Recovery Milestones In July I will celebrate 20 years of this remarkable healing journey from codependency. Will I ever be completely free of... Continue Reading →
Your hardest fight I'm going to start off with an apology to you all... I am so sorry I haven't been faithful to this challenge or this blog lately. I will try to do better but I make no promises because it is so hard for me to write when I'm just not feeling it.... Continue Reading →
The longest night you ever spent Being the people-pleasing, under achieving, no self-esteeming, flaming codependent that I was, I have countless long nights in my history. Each one of them brought on by my own poor choices and devastating consequences. However, since I am to write about the "longest night", I will write about the... Continue Reading →
It's been just over a year since I completed my A - Z Codependency challenge and once again, I need something new to motivate me. Life has been pretty peaceful and I find myself struggling to write about anything. So, I did some research looking for some kind of writing challenge and found one that... Continue Reading →
Updated... I wrestled with myself a little last week... I received an email from Kindle Direct Publishing for my ex's father's account. At one point, a few years ago, I was helping him edit and self-publish his books. I kept telling him I was not a literary agent nor an editor but he wanted my... Continue Reading →
Journey On Strong 