The next couple of parts to my story are going to be much harder to write about. They are the true "ugliness" of my story and the beginning of my spiral into much self-loathing, shame & despair...it is my truth and perception of my life. It was how I reacted to the rejection, pain and... Continue Reading →
A New Revelation
I had a mind-blowing revelation this past weekend. Forty years of wondering why I could not seem to connect with my father on any kind of meaningful level and I finally think I hit the nail on the head. It was truly eye-opening, yet I'm not sure what to do with it, or really if... Continue Reading →
Knowing My “Place”
Whoooo wheeeee...am I on a roll about this one! Let's see, how do I put it all into words. Oh I have plenty of words coming out of my mouth but writing about it is going to be a bit challenging...I think. We'll see. So in the course of dealing with my clients, there are... Continue Reading →
Letting Go of Our Adult Children
I was recently asked by a very dear friend of mine to write something to the women who are struggling with letting go of their adult children. As a mother myself and a codependent by nature, I could completely relate to this topic. I by no means get it right in this area all the... Continue Reading →
Codependency up in my face…
It's been a crazy few weeks and so far, I have survived. My codependency has been all up in my face, in all areas of my life. Ugh, I hate when that happens. The fact that I have been terribly sick this past week and I just can't find the joy in me for this holiday season,... Continue Reading →
Be the safe person…not the Judge!
I had an interesting conversation last night with a friend of mine who seems to feel another friend we have in common (though I haven't seen her for a few years) is "stuck" in her marriage. He went on to tell me how he basically interrogates her to see if she will tell the truth... Continue Reading →
Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes
How many times have you heard the saying, "Nothing changes if nothing changes"? How about the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result? Maybe you're like me, before I entered recovery, and have never heard these sayings before. Well, you have now so what are your thoughts? I... Continue Reading →
Watching the Dance From Afar
One of the most frustrating things for a recovering codependent is to watch someone, who knows nothing of codependency, dance the endless and exhausting dance. It doesn't matter how much you explain what is happening on the dance floor, because you are all too familiar with it, they still dance. Once again reminding me, that... Continue Reading →
Tornado in the Valley of Change
Remember my last post, where I bragged about landing in the "Valley of Change"? Well, a tornado stuck the valley, full force, that very night. There was no warning; I never saw it coming. It hit so hard, I almost lost my sanity and peace of mind. Sleep did not come to me that night... Continue Reading →
It’s not about your location!
I was reading through some post on other blogs and came across this one, Geographic Relocation and Codependency, which made me start thinking. I have heard many people say how much they hate this place (whatever place they live) and want to move and start over. It amazes me when someone says, "The people here suck!"... Continue Reading →
God sent me a message from an angel!
It has been a bi-polar couple of days in my world and just when I think I'm about to lose it, God sent me a message from an angel! It's 4:03 am and I haven't been able to sleep again for the 2nd night in a row. Some interesting events have unfolded over the past couple of... Continue Reading →
