The Role of Trust in My Healing: Or How I Learned to Stop Side-Eyeing Myself There was a moment (okay, many moments) when I realized I didn’t really trust myself. Not with decisions, not with people, and definitely not with online shopping past 9 p.m. Healing was happening, slowly, but trust? That felt like assembling... Continue Reading →
Week 12: Releasing the Need for Approval
Releasing the Need for Approval: Reflect on moments where you’ve let go of external validation. My Ongoing Battle with People-Pleasing Rehab There was a time when a side-eye from a stranger could send me into an existential crisis. Did I say something wrong? Did I wear the wrong shoes? Am I radiating "bad person" energy?... Continue Reading →
Week 11: How I Stay Grounded in Stressful Situations
Keeping My Sanity: How I Stay Grounded in Stressful Situations Let’s be real—stressful situations are inevitable. Whether it’s an overflowing inbox (this absolutely stresses me out!), a family gathering that feels like a reality TV drama, or the unexpected horror of realizing you’re out of coffee, life has a way of testing our patience. But... Continue Reading →
Week 9: Practicing Radical Acceptance
Practicing Radical Acceptance: It Is What It Is (Even If I Don’t Like It) I used to believe that if I just tried hard enough, planned well enough, and cared deeply enough, life would bend to my will. Spoiler alert: It didn’t. Instead, life did what it wanted, and I exhausted myself fighting against reality.... Continue Reading →
Week 5: Recognizing Subtle Triggers and Handling Them
February 2025: Deepening Self-Awareness: Recognizing Subtle Triggers and Handling Them Life has its ups and downs, and not all surprises are good ones. Sometimes, everything feels fine, and then out of nowhere, something small—like a song, a smell, or a random comment—brings up tough feelings. These moments are called triggers. They remind us of past... Continue Reading →
Week 4 – How I Measure Progress Beyond Perfection
January 2025: Reflecting on the Journey - How I Measure Progress Beyond Perfection For a long time, I thought progress had to look like a perfectly checked-off to-do list, pristine accomplishments, or flawless execution. Somewhere along the way, I equated success with perfection—and let me tell you, that’s a fast-track to burnout and feeling like you’re... Continue Reading →
Recovery Isn’t Perfect—And That’s Okay
There are days when the struggle is real. I just want to state, for the record, that for as much as I’ve learned over these many years in recovery and for as far as I’ve come, there are still days I struggle. I would love you to think I have it all together and that... Continue Reading →
Week 2 – What Recovery Means to Me Now
January 2025: Reflecting on the Journey - What Recovery Means to Me Now Recovery—a word that used to mean “fixed” or “done” to me—has taken on a whole new meaning over the years. When I first started this journey, I thought recovery was a destination, a finish line I could cross where everything would be... Continue Reading →
Week 1 – My Codependency Recovery Milestones
To, hopefully, get back in the swing of things, I'm kicking off 2025 with a blogging challenge. I'd love you to join me! January 2025: Reflecting on the Journey - My Codependency Recovery Milestones In July I will celebrate 20 years of this remarkable healing journey from codependency. Will I ever be completely free of... Continue Reading →
The Swoosh of the Backslide
Did you hear it? It was so quiet one would scarcely notice. The "swoosh" of the backslide. My backslide. Not even I heard it. I was just there. I missed all the warning signs that I'm sure were posted all along the way. Do you know why? I missed them because I was too damn... Continue Reading →
Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes
It has been almost four years since I wrote this post and it just amazes me how different my life is these days. Change can be hard and certainly scary but change is hope. Don't give up! How many times have you heard the saying, “Nothing changes if nothing changes”? How about the definition of... Continue Reading →
Have you lost your joy?
I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine who, I feel, has lost her joy. I say this because I remember when I lost mine. I remember just how I felt, how I acted and where I ended up. Joy vs. Happiness Joy and happiness are wonderful feelings to experience, but are very... Continue Reading →
