Encouragement for the Codependent
Navigating Relapses in Codependency Recovery When Old Habits Creep Back In I wish I could tell you that once you start healing from codependency and people-pleasing, those old habits pack their bags, wave goodbye, and head off into the sunset forever. But let’s be real — they’re more like that neighbor who occasionally shows up... Continue Reading →
Today I’m Celebrating 20 Years of Recovery from Codependency and People-Pleasing!And yes—I’m throwing confetti (and maybe even dancing a little). Two decades. That’s 240 months, 1,040 weeks, and a whole lot of no’s I had to learn how to say. Today, I’m not just celebrating a milestone—I’m honoring every small, quiet, courageous step it took... Continue Reading →
How I Celebrate Myself (Without Feeling Guilty About It) There was a time when celebrating myself felt...wrong. Like, who did I think I was to throw an internal party just because I said no to something that drained me? Or because I finally kept a boundary without apologizing six times after? That, my friends, is... Continue Reading →
The Role of Trust in My Healing: Or How I Learned to Stop Side-Eyeing Myself There was a moment (okay, many moments) when I realized I didn’t really trust myself. Not with decisions, not with people, and definitely not with online shopping past 9 p.m. Healing was happening, slowly, but trust? That felt like assembling... Continue Reading →
Releasing the Need for Approval: Reflect on moments where you’ve let go of external validation. My Ongoing Battle with People-Pleasing Rehab There was a time when a side-eye from a stranger could send me into an existential crisis. Did I say something wrong? Did I wear the wrong shoes? Am I radiating "bad person" energy?... Continue Reading →
Keeping My Sanity: How I Stay Grounded in Stressful Situations Let’s be real—stressful situations are inevitable. Whether it’s an overflowing inbox (this absolutely stresses me out!), a family gathering that feels like a reality TV drama, or the unexpected horror of realizing you’re out of coffee, life has a way of testing our patience. But... Continue Reading →
Practicing Radical Acceptance: It Is What It Is (Even If I Don’t Like It) I used to believe that if I just tried hard enough, planned well enough, and cared deeply enough, life would bend to my will. Spoiler alert: It didn’t. Instead, life did what it wanted, and I exhausted myself fighting against reality.... Continue Reading →
February 2025: Deepening Self-Awareness: Recognizing Subtle Triggers and Handling Them Life has its ups and downs, and not all surprises are good ones. Sometimes, everything feels fine, and then out of nowhere, something small—like a song, a smell, or a random comment—brings up tough feelings. These moments are called triggers. They remind us of past... Continue Reading →
January 2025: Reflecting on the Journey - How I Measure Progress Beyond Perfection For a long time, I thought progress had to look like a perfectly checked-off to-do list, pristine accomplishments, or flawless execution. Somewhere along the way, I equated success with perfection—and let me tell you, that’s a fast-track to burnout and feeling like you’re... Continue Reading →
There are days when the struggle is real. I just want to state, for the record, that for as much as I’ve learned over these many years in recovery and for as far as I’ve come, there are still days I struggle. I would love you to think I have it all together and that... Continue Reading →
January 2025: Reflecting on the Journey - What Recovery Means to Me Now Recovery—a word that used to mean “fixed” or “done” to me—has taken on a whole new meaning over the years. When I first started this journey, I thought recovery was a destination, a finish line I could cross where everything would be... Continue Reading →
To, hopefully, get back in the swing of things, I'm kicking off 2025 with a blogging challenge. I'd love you to join me! January 2025: Reflecting on the Journey - My Codependency Recovery Milestones In July I will celebrate 20 years of this remarkable healing journey from codependency. Will I ever be completely free of... Continue Reading →
Journey On Strong 