Did you hear it? It was so quiet one would scarcely notice. The "swoosh" of the backslide. My backslide. Not even I heard it. I was just there. I missed all the warning signs that I'm sure were posted all along the way. Do you know why? I missed them because I was too damn... Continue Reading →
Inside Out Challenge – Day 11
The most you said with just one word Like most codependent, the hardest thing for me to do is say, "No". However, that tiny little word has given me so much freedom and has brought me to a place of peace and serenity in my life. Saying "No" has taught me how to set boundaries with... Continue Reading →
Have you lost your joy?
I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine who, I feel, has lost her joy. I say this because I remember when I lost mine. I remember just how I felt, how I acted and where I ended up. Joy vs. Happiness Joy and happiness are wonderful feelings to experience, but are very... Continue Reading →
No Need To Explain Myself
Updated... I wrestled with myself a little last week... I received an email from Kindle Direct Publishing for my ex's father's account. At one point, a few years ago, I was helping him edit and self-publish his books. I kept telling him I was not a literary agent nor an editor but he wanted my... Continue Reading →
Planning For A Stressless Season
Well here we are...fall and I love the fall weather! However, fall also signifies the start of the holiday season; a season that brings about much stress and overwhelm. I use to love the holiday season. I enjoyed buying things for friends and family, getting together for large family dinners, attending parties, etc., but not... Continue Reading →
What Are Your Favorite Recovery Tools?
We use various tools every single day of our lives. We have kitchen tools, grooming tools, gardening tools, construction tools, tools to help us walk, tools to help us reach, tools for this and tools for that...the list goes on and on. All these tools were invented to help make our tasks easier. Take the... Continue Reading →
My A – Z Codependency Challenge – Y
Yelling, Yielding, Yearning Your yelling and my yielding Was a dance that fed my yearning For peace For love For happiness Which did not come My yelling and your yawning Was a dance that fueled my yielding For peace For love For happiness Which I found without you
My A – Z Codependency Challenge – O
Obsession, Overwrought, Overwhelmed I had an obsession To love you Like I thought you needed to be loved I was overwrought With fear, guilt and shame When my love was not enough I was overwhelmed With my failure To love you like you needed to be loved I understand now To love me So I... Continue Reading →
My A – Z Codependency Challenge – J
Jackasses, Joyless, Jeopardy My mother uses the term jackass when she discusses the very few men she doesn’t like. It’s much nicer than the term(s) I use but since it falls in line with my “J” list, I will use it. Wink, wink So, let’s just start with the fact that my picker was broken.... Continue Reading →
Sometimes…Doing What Is Right For Me Can Be Hard
Do you let your codependency and people-pleasing issues get in the way of taking care of yourself and doing what it right for you or just right in general? Yeah, that would be me. I still catch myself getting stuck in these ruts. However, today, I know how to get out of them. Sometimes I... Continue Reading →
Begin Your Own Ripple Effect
We’ve all heard of the “ripple effect”, haven’t we? Dictionary.com defines the ripple effect as “a spreading effect or series of consequences caused by a single action or event”. When I look back at my life, I can see so many instances where the ripple effect was in play. What I can also see now... Continue Reading →
I am at peace with my decision.
Yesterday I posted about terminating a client of mine and her email 28 days later asking me to reconsider. As soon as I read her email, I knew what my answer would be but I wanted to take some time to really think and pray if it was the right one. Here was my response and... Continue Reading →