I received a text message from my brother the other night. He let me know that he just got off the phone with my ex-boyfriend, M, and that M wanted my brother to give me his phone number. He explained to my brother that he was dying of cancer. I have friends that are still... Continue Reading →
I had to give myself a reality check over the past couple of days and it has taken me some time to process it. It was a wake-up call to "hope vs. expectations" and it was disappointing. Somehow I have managed to bleed expectations into my hope. Years ago, someone called me "pathetically hopeful". I... Continue Reading →
Thank you Mike for completing our "Black Belt Codependent Interview Series"! Mike mentions in his interview, "My friends, son and ex-wife will call me on my bull when it happens. I am recovered enough that I want to be called out when I behave poorly." This is so extremely important to do for those of... Continue Reading →
I have joined a few groups for codependents on Facebook within the last week or so and I'm really not liking the vibe in them. LOL... Get a bunch of codependents together and all they want to do is fix everyone else. Truly, I understand the need for these support groups but sometimes the drama... Continue Reading →
I read the comment below today and thought, "Wow! Isn't that the truth?" Sometimes I feel like calling myself codependent means I am broken. I am not. As codependents we care very deeply for others. That is an EXCELLENT quality. We think of others first. That is a spiritual quality. In fact the world would... Continue Reading →
A Big Shout Out to Deirdre for completing our "Black Belt Codependent Interview Series"! In her interview, Deirde mentions laughing and I would like to say how much I appreciate that. Recovery is sometimes a hard and painful journey but there are also times of joy and laughter. Don't miss out on them because you... Continue Reading →
It's actually empowering when I use the tools of my recovery and watch how things unfold. Last night I practiced "staying on my side of the street" and it was so easy and refreshing. I was expecting my boyfriend to come over but when we were texting, his texts were very terse and he said... Continue Reading →
Just rambling on today... “Codependency underlies all addictions. The core symptom of “dependency” manifests as reliance on a person, substance, or process (i.e., activity, such as gambling or sex addiction). Instead of having a healthy relationship with yourself, you make something or someone else more important. Over time, your thoughts, feelings, and actions revolve around that other person, activity, or substance, and you increasingly abandon your relationship with yourself.” Ah,... Continue Reading →
Today’s interview is with Julie. Julie is one of my best friends and I have had the honor of watching her grow and change over the years. She is a powerful woman of God! Want to share your story and encourage others? If you are interested in participating in the “Black Belt Codependent Interview Series“, please click here and... Continue Reading →
Today’s interview is with Shari. She is a dear friend of mine who has traveled this journey of recovery with me from day one. Yep, she is the one who handed me the materials about codependency at the very first Celebrate Recovery meeting I attended. She is an amazing and caring woman of God! Want... Continue Reading →
We use various tools every single day of our lives. We have kitchen tools, grooming tools, gardening tools, construction tools, tools to help us walk, tools to help us reach, tools for this and tools for that...the list goes on and on. All these tools were invented to help make our tasks easier. Take the... Continue Reading →
My best friend Lucy has a son who is an addict. He is 36 (I think) and has been in and out of jail for drugs and drug related crimes since he was a young teen. He even lived with me for about a year when he was getting his life together and attending school... Continue Reading →
Journey On Strong 