My brother Rick, passed away unexpectedly on February 8, 2020. He was only 55 years old. Growing up, my brother hated me and I was terribly afraid of him. Needless to say we had a horrible relationship but our God is a God of restoration and He opened the doors for the healing and restoration... Continue Reading →
She Is Staying Off The Dance Floor
My best friend Lucy has a son who is an addict. He is 36 (I think) and has been in and out of jail for drugs and drug related crimes since he was a young teen. He even lived with me for about a year when he was getting his life together and attending school... Continue Reading →
Words Our Inner Child Needs to Hear
My little sister was a nanny for 2 precious little girls who are turning 4 years old. She decided to write them a letter and shared it with me. I am sharing it on my blog (with her permission) because it touched me so deeply. My little sis is wise beyond her years. It is written... Continue Reading →
My A – Z Codependency Challenge – Wrap-Up
Well this self-inflicted challenge has certainly been interesting; had to dig up things I haven’t thought about in awhile. Though some of it was challenging I am pleased to say that none of it was too hard to handle. Growth and healing at its finest I’d say. Now I need some more ideas to help me... Continue Reading →
My A – Z Codependency Challenge – X
Whew! This is challenge is almost over! I really struggled with this one! As I’m sure you already know, there are really not very many words beginning with the letter X. Well, there are only one and a half pages of X words out of 1342 in my Webster’s Dictionary so I had to get... Continue Reading →
My A – Z Codependency Challenge – V
A whole lot of V's In the beginning… I was a victim to the villains who vanquished my life. I was vulnerable to the vague validation I desperately valued to fill the void within my heart. I lived a vicarious life vexed with vainglorious attempts to validate you. In the end… I found value in... Continue Reading →
My A – Z Codependency Challenge – T
Trust, Teased, Tiresome, Tired Trust - We are born with an innate ability to trust and as we grow, we develop a sense of who we can or cannot trust based on our life experiences. Somehow along the way, my trust sensor broke. I blame it on my lack of self-esteem from a very young... Continue Reading →
My A – Z Codependency Challenge – Q
Quiet, Quest, Questions I was quiet about my quest My quest to find love My quest to find peace My quest to find happiness My quest to find acceptance Too quiet I shut out that still small voice I did not ask questions Questions that would guide me Questions that would protect me Questions that... Continue Reading →
I Won’t Back Down
I felt this song went along perfectly with the post I wrote this morning about my boundaries. Sometimes a little song in my head helps to remind me of where I am or where I need to be in my recovery and this one was spot on! So if you are having troubles with holding... Continue Reading →
Hope Will Come
I have been reflecting a lot this week on one of my favorite promises from God, Jeremiah 29:11. “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope." A few years ago I was thrown into... Continue Reading →
The Recovery Elevator Is Out Of Order
Don't you wish you could just get on the "recovery elevator", push a button and be where you want to be in no time? I'd go straight for the top...healing, wellness, wholeness, happiness… within seconds. But alas, there is no such elevator, no such pill, no such magic. There is just the journey of each... Continue Reading →
Begin Your Own Ripple Effect
We’ve all heard of the “ripple effect”, haven’t we? Dictionary.com defines the ripple effect as “a spreading effect or series of consequences caused by a single action or event”. When I look back at my life, I can see so many instances where the ripple effect was in play. What I can also see now... Continue Reading →