The longest night you ever spent Being the people-pleasing, under achieving, no self-esteeming, flaming codependent that I was, I have countless long nights in my history. Each one of them brought on by my own poor choices and devastating consequences. However, since I am to write about the "longest night", I will write about the... Continue Reading →
Inside Out Challenge – Day 2
Your biggest fear about growing old I've never had any fears of growing old. I actually look forward to it. I want to see my grandchildren get married and I want to be around to hold and love on my great-grandchildren. There is so much to look forward to that I'm almost, dare I say,... Continue Reading →
Inside Out Challenge – Day 1
The biggest lie you ever told Well it just sucks that this is the topic for the very first day. No warming up, no easing into it, just straight to the point from the get go. So I had to ponder about this one... a lot. I could tell you about the time I lied... Continue Reading →
Book Review: Conquering Shame and Codependency — Bad Cat Ink
This is a wonderfully written review of the book, Conquering Shame and Codependency, by blogger Melody Daggerhart of Bad Cat Ink. Book: Conquering Shame and Codependency Series: Author: Darlene Lancer Genres: non-fiction, self-help, psychology, codependency Synopsis (from Amazon book page): A nationally recognized author, speaker and codependency expert examines the roots of shame and its connection with... Continue Reading →
Kicking Off the Inside Out Writing Challenge!
It's been just over a year since I completed my A - Z Codependency challenge and once again, I need something new to motivate me. Life has been pretty peaceful and I find myself struggling to write about anything. So, I did some research looking for some kind of writing challenge and found one that... Continue Reading →
Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes
It has been almost four years since I wrote this post and it just amazes me how different my life is these days. Change can be hard and certainly scary but change is hope. Don't give up! How many times have you heard the saying, “Nothing changes if nothing changes”? How about the definition of... Continue Reading →
Have you lost your joy?
I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine who, I feel, has lost her joy. I say this because I remember when I lost mine. I remember just how I felt, how I acted and where I ended up. Joy vs. Happiness Joy and happiness are wonderful feelings to experience, but are very... Continue Reading →
Self Care: An Alien Concept To Codependents But An Essential Process
It is an alien concept and really uncomfortable at first but life changes when we do it!
For anyone with codependent tendencies, self care is not a concept that comes easy. Used to giving and not receiving, it can be difficult to turn that attention inward when needed. It is generally needed at all times, however in the process of recovery from narcissist abuse, it is essential. In therapy, it is something I try to encourage as much as possible and help clients realise that it is more than just making themselves feel good. Healthy self care is not about escaping and distraction. It is not about impulsive behavior based on self pity. It is about the basics and more. If we look at the basics first:
Stephen R Covey wrote: “Feeling good doesn’t just happen. Living a life in balance means taking the necessary time to renew yourself. It’s all up to you. You can renew yourself through relaxation. Or you can totally burn yourself out…
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Join The Fun and Help Empower Women Veterans!
My client is hosting the her very first Women Veterans Red, White & Blue Fun Run on May 19th and it promises to be tons of FUN! The purpose of this event is to raise money to help empower women veterans. I wanted to share this on my blog for those who like to participate... Continue Reading →
Did I really just do that? Yep, I did!
Every once in awhile, I do something really, really, I mean REALLY stupid and yep, today was one of those days. No, really, it's true. Remember the call to the hospital? Well, this was just as bad. I was actually sitting in my office (which is in the breakfast nook of my kitchen which faces... Continue Reading →
No Need To Explain Myself
Updated... I wrestled with myself a little last week... I received an email from Kindle Direct Publishing for my ex's father's account. At one point, a few years ago, I was helping him edit and self-publish his books. I kept telling him I was not a literary agent nor an editor but he wanted my... Continue Reading →
Repeat After Me
I am...