It's actually empowering when I use the tools of my recovery and watch how things unfold. Last night I practiced "staying on my side of the street" and it was so easy and refreshing. I was expecting my boyfriend to come over but when we were texting, his texts were very terse and he said... Continue Reading →
New Resource – DailyStrength
As some of you may have seen in my recent newsletter, I ran across this free, online codependency support group and thought I would share with you. I have joined the group and have found some really encouraging and supportive people there. If you are struggling with something, it's a great place to get feedback, insight,... Continue Reading →
Planning For A Stressless Season
Well here we are...fall and I love the fall weather! However, fall also signifies the start of the holiday season; a season that brings about much stress and overwhelm. I use to love the holiday season. I enjoyed buying things for friends and family, getting together for large family dinners, attending parties, etc., but not... Continue Reading →
What Are Your Favorite Recovery Tools?
We use various tools every single day of our lives. We have kitchen tools, grooming tools, gardening tools, construction tools, tools to help us walk, tools to help us reach, tools for this and tools for that...the list goes on and on. All these tools were invented to help make our tasks easier. Take the... Continue Reading →
She Is Staying Off The Dance Floor
My best friend Lucy has a son who is an addict. He is 36 (I think) and has been in and out of jail for drugs and drug related crimes since he was a young teen. He even lived with me for about a year when he was getting his life together and attending school... Continue Reading →
“Everyone” Wants To Be Heard But “No one” Wants To Listen
It amazes me how fast we can get stuck in an unhealthy cycle of dysfunction. Life's circumstances and daily stresses can become overwhelming and we just want someone to listen as we work through the pain, emotions, challenges, etc, that each day brings. Unfortunately, because we all have these pains, emotions, challenges, etc, we get... Continue Reading →
How to Recover From a Mistake Using G.R.O.W.T.H. — MakeItUltra™
I have never seen this acronym before but I love it! I truly enjoy and get much out of this gentleman's blog and I hope you will too. Check it out! Written by Eric C., MA., PhD Candidate Audio version available | Click here “You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone.... Continue Reading →
Mental Health Exercise: My Daily Mini Vacation (Video) — MakeItUltra™
This is something that, as a codependent, I struggled with. I felt so much guilt in even the simplest pleasures for myself. If you struggle with taking time for yourself this video is for you! Just do it and see how refreshed you feel! https://www.youtube.com/embed/WyXwx0o9V20?version=3&rel=1&fs=1&autohide=2&showsearch=0&showinfo=1&iv_load_policy=1&wmode=transparent Subscribe to Youtube Channel About Psychological Services | Click here... Continue Reading →
Starting Something New – Would You Like To Be Included?
I am starting a monthly newsletter and would love to share it with you! I will be sending out my latest blog updates, encouragement, tips for taking care of "You" and anything else that may be relevant to issues of codependency, people-pleasing, enabling and boundaries. If you would like to receive my newsletter, please click... Continue Reading →
Sharing Some Exciting News!
I am so excited to announce that not only have I finally finished my 1st book, I have also created a journal for codependents and they will be published withing the next couple of weeks! Journey of a Codependent Discovering the Beauty of Who I Am This is the story of my life as a... Continue Reading →
I have a decision to make…
A funny thing happened on the way to the office today...Nah, I just really wanted to say that, but something interesting did happen and it is giving me the opportunity to stretch myself and test myself in several areas. As always, a little history is needed to give you the full picture so please bear with me.... Continue Reading →
A Thought Provoking Question From Lucy
Yesterday, my best friend Lucy and I took a trip to San Francisco's Golden Gate Park to visit the Japanese Tea Gardens. I can't even begin to tell you about the wonderful adventures we had. We laughed so much and so hard, others probably thought we were drunk or on drugs...especially on the paddle boat!... Continue Reading →