I read the comment below today and thought, "Wow! Isn't that the truth?" Sometimes I feel like calling myself codependent means I am broken. I am not. As codependents we care very deeply for others. That is an EXCELLENT quality. We think of others first. That is a spiritual quality. In fact the world would... Continue Reading →
What Are Your Favorite Recovery Tools?
We use various tools every single day of our lives. We have kitchen tools, grooming tools, gardening tools, construction tools, tools to help us walk, tools to help us reach, tools for this and tools for that...the list goes on and on. All these tools were invented to help make our tasks easier. Take the... Continue Reading →
She Is Staying Off The Dance Floor
My best friend Lucy has a son who is an addict. He is 36 (I think) and has been in and out of jail for drugs and drug related crimes since he was a young teen. He even lived with me for about a year when he was getting his life together and attending school... Continue Reading →
Are you changing or transforming?
While I was walking through my room this morning (doing God only knows what because I have already forgotten) I heard something on the TV that caught my attention, but only for a moment. The only things I remember are the two words "life-changes" and "transformation". It got me to thinking about the two and... Continue Reading →
Words Our Inner Child Needs to Hear
My little sister was a nanny for 2 precious little girls who are turning 4 years old. She decided to write them a letter and shared it with me. I am sharing it on my blog (with her permission) because it touched me so deeply. My little sis is wise beyond her years. It is written... Continue Reading →
Do You Ever Stop to Analyze Your Fears?
Where did they come from? Why are they so powerful? What gives them power? There are many types of fears and some of them are quite valid but that is for another post. This post has to do with the silly fears developed in my younger years and are completely ridiculous for the woman I... Continue Reading →
Are You Kidding Me???
I consider myself a pretty mild-mannered, easy-going, good-natured person, but on occasion something will rub me the wrong way and I just become ridiculously ungracious and irritated. The very sad part is that it doesn’t have to be anything serious or big; the smallest infraction of stupidity can sometimes send me over the edge of... Continue Reading →
The Day I Got Free
This is a beautiful poem written by an amazing woman who has triumphed over much turmoil and hardship in her life. Please take a minute to read and follow her blog. She is such an encouragement! The day I accepted myself, was the day I got free Free to walk and stumble, run then stop, and... Continue Reading →
Sometimes…Doing What Is Right For Me Can Be Hard
Do you let your codependency and people-pleasing issues get in the way of taking care of yourself and doing what it right for you or just right in general? Yeah, that would be me. I still catch myself getting stuck in these ruts. However, today, I know how to get out of them. Sometimes I... Continue Reading →
Affirmation
Where do you get your affirmation? Most of my life I looked for affirmation from others. I needed to hear their words of praise, encouragement, love... I NEEDED it. I would receive compliments or praise and I would feel an ever so brief fluttering of pride. Then I would start feeling they didn't really mean... Continue Reading →
The Insanity of Codependency…There is Hope!
This is a post that I actually wrote as a guest post for another blog in July 2014. The blog has since been taken down so I decided to post on the Diary of a Recovering Codependent. Enjoy! Have you ever felt you were doing everything right but in the process, you were going absolutely and utterly... Continue Reading →
My Castle…My Life
I was doing some reading about boundaries and personal rights and it made me think of a castle. My life is now a castle in all its glory and splendor. You're probably thinking, "how in the heck did you get from boundaries and rights, to your life is a castle?" Let me explain, as I... Continue Reading →