Do you ever not talk to someone about something because you already KNOW they are not going to be supportive? Well, that’s what I’ve been doing because I know this person’s personality and I know it’s just not within them to be supportive. So, I do not speak of my new business venture with them. ... Continue Reading →
The Swoosh of the Backslide
Did you hear it? It was so quiet one would scarcely notice. The "swoosh" of the backslide. My backslide. Not even I heard it. I was just there. I missed all the warning signs that I'm sure were posted all along the way. Do you know why? I missed them because I was too damn... Continue Reading →
Hardest decision of my life!
My brother Rick, passed away unexpectedly on February 8, 2020. He was only 55 years old. Growing up, my brother hated me and I was terribly afraid of him. Needless to say we had a horrible relationship but our God is a God of restoration and He opened the doors for the healing and restoration... Continue Reading →
Inside Out Challenge – Day 11
The most you said with just one word Like most codependent, the hardest thing for me to do is say, "No". However, that tiny little word has given me so much freedom and has brought me to a place of peace and serenity in my life. Saying "No" has taught me how to set boundaries with... Continue Reading →
No Need To Explain Myself
Updated... I wrestled with myself a little last week... I received an email from Kindle Direct Publishing for my ex's father's account. At one point, a few years ago, I was helping him edit and self-publish his books. I kept telling him I was not a literary agent nor an editor but he wanted my... Continue Reading →
For everything there is a season…
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, (I am here but I will not be forever.) a time to plant and a time to uproot, (Sow within myself words of affirmation and dig out those negative tapes... Continue Reading →
I’m Not Getting Sucked In
I received a text message from my brother the other night. He let me know that he just got off the phone with my ex-boyfriend, M, and that M wanted my brother to give me his phone number. He explained to my brother that he was dying of cancer. I have friends that are still... Continue Reading →
Enjoying A Relationship With Myself
Just rambling on today... “Codependency underlies all addictions. The core symptom of “dependency” manifests as reliance on a person, substance, or process (i.e., activity, such as gambling or sex addiction). Instead of having a healthy relationship with yourself, you make something or someone else more important. Over time, your thoughts, feelings, and actions revolve around that other person, activity, or substance, and you increasingly abandon your relationship with yourself.” Ah,... Continue Reading →
“Everyone” Wants To Be Heard But “No one” Wants To Listen
It amazes me how fast we can get stuck in an unhealthy cycle of dysfunction. Life's circumstances and daily stresses can become overwhelming and we just want someone to listen as we work through the pain, emotions, challenges, etc, that each day brings. Unfortunately, because we all have these pains, emotions, challenges, etc, we get... Continue Reading →
Are You A Safe Person?
I originally wrote this post in 2014 but thought it was a good time to bring it up again. I had an interesting conversation last night with a friend of mine who seems to feel another friend we have in common (though I haven't seen her for a few years) is "stuck" in her marriage.... Continue Reading →
Words Our Inner Child Needs to Hear
My little sister was a nanny for 2 precious little girls who are turning 4 years old. She decided to write them a letter and shared it with me. I am sharing it on my blog (with her permission) because it touched me so deeply. My little sis is wise beyond her years. It is written... Continue Reading →
Looking Forward but Stressing Still
I'm heading out for a little adventure to the city of Las Vegas this week. One of my uncles is celebrating his 90th birthday and his son is throwing him a huge party at the Main Street Social Club. I originally RSVP'd to my cousin that I was coming but then at the beginning of the... Continue Reading →